How to be Attractive to Girls

Steps and tips to follow To Attract Girls

How to be Attractive to Girls

Want to be that cool guy who gets all the girls? Not because he is smart or has a good personality. Well, this will teach you how to be attractive to girls on the out and inside.

Steps

Outside

1. Do Exercises Many people think that you have to lift weights to get fit. That actually isn't the case. First, push-ups work your chest and triceps massively! Crunches work your abs. You put your calf/feet on the seat of a chair, with your back on the ground. You should be looking at the ceiling. Put your hands on the back of your head and move your head towards the ceiling. You also want to try doing cardio along with that. Such as, biking, running, and swimming.
2. Dress Nicely Feel good in your own skin. Most girls like American Eagle, Aeropostale, South Pole Polo, Ect. Wear baggy or normal jeans or cargo kackis. Nike or Converse are excellent brand names. Most girls will like it if you wear good quality clothes! That doesn't mean buy really expencive clothes, just take into account the feel of your clothes, becuase when you break the touch barrier girls like things that feel nice!3
3. Have Good Hygiene Take a shower and use deodorant, a touch of cologne, a toothbrush (to brush your teeth),and other hygiene-related items.

Inside

1. Learn to Talk Just relax. If your super-shy,hang around guys that hang around girls and every now and then make a comment. Eventually, you'll be confident enough to talk to them all by yourself.2
2. Be Nice Always treat girls with the utmost respect, and never make fun of them, but always tease them just as when you were kids at playaround3
3. Have Fun Be a fun person. Girls love it. Make people laugh.4
4. Think That Your 'IT'It doesn't always have to do with looks,but what you think of yourself.Change your mentality,if you think your attractive you will definately be attractive.

How To Kiss your Girlfriend

Steps and tips to follow To Kiss your Girlfriend First Time When she is not ready for such love

How To Kiss your Girlfriend First Time When she is not ready for such love

1. Steps

   I'm going to be talking to you about how to kiss your girlfriends. First of all, congratulations, you've got a girlfriend and that's a great thing to have, because it shows someone finds you attractive, someone loves your company, someone wants to spend time with you. But first of all, before you get into any of that heavy kissing, make sure your lips are really kissable.
   
   Now, by that, I mean, make sure you haven't got chapped lips, make sure they're not dry or flaky, or nasty. Girls really notice the small touches about a man. What their nails are like.
   
   What their hands are like. What their hair is like. What they smell like.
   
   Their skin, their lips, these small touches might sound sissy and ridiculous to you, but all girls worry about those features because they worry about these features themselves. They look at you and think, what are his lips like? Would I want to kiss those lips? Invest in a little lip salve or some Vaseline, or something if your lips are dry. Make them kissable.
   
   Make her look at your lips and think, “I can't wait to get a hold of those”. The big thing about kissing and sexual attraction, in general, is body language. When you really want to kiss her, match her stance.
   
   Mirror how she stands. If she leans in, you lean in. Point your body to match the way her body points.
   
   Make sure that your bodies match together. Therefore, don't stand with your arms folded. Don't stand all hunched up or look away.
   
   Keep eye contact with her, and let her know you're attracted to her by the way you stand. Be a man. Take the lead.
   
   Every girl, regardless of what she says, would love that Hollywood movie kiss, where the guy holds her in his arms and gives her a big kiss. Take the lead. Now, that might be terrifying to suddenly just go, “I'm going to grab her and kiss her”.
   
   Don't think about it like that. Because even though you're going to be confident and direct, you're going to feel your way in. When you're sat down, or when you're stood up, initiate body contact.
   
   If you're sat down together, put your hand on her wrist gently and softly. Maybe make a running motion along her forearm. If you're stood up together, put your arm on her shoulder or your hand on the side of her arms or even on the side of her face.
   
   Let her know that you want to touch her and you want to initiate contact. Next, the big thing with kissing is to relax. It's all about taking your time and softness.
   
   Relax all your facial muscles, you shouldn't be tense. You're not going to be doing anything that's going to be uncomfortable. You're going to really enjoy it.
   
   Once you relax your face, keep your lips really soft. When you lean in, take your time and be really slow. Now, we talked about that Hollywood kiss.
   
   Now, even in the big shows, they take their time with the kiss. It might look like they're grabbing each other, and they're kissing, and they're sucking face straight away. We don't have to do that.
   
   You're going to take your time and feel your way in. Once you've connected with your lips, your lips are together, just make gentle kissing motions. Hold the side of her face.
   
   When you kiss someone passionately, you don't necessarily kiss with your jaw. You're not making a biting motion. It's all about the soft muscles in your face.
   
   Keep your face relaxed, and you'll enjoy the kiss. A lot of guys worry what's going to happen with the tongue. We all hear when we do a passionate kiss or a French kiss for the first time, we've got to use our tongue.
   
   I mean, what the hell goes on in there? What you're going to do, because you're taking your time and you're going to enjoy your kiss, you don't ram your tongue into somebody's mouth. You just probe lightly. Feel the way into her mouth with the tip of your tongue, and if she responds, push your tongue in a little bit further.
   
   It should feel nice, it should feel gentle. It should feel intimate. You're not trying to cram your tongue into her throat.
   
   You're not licking an ice cream. You're just tasting. You're just probing with the very tip of your tongue.
   
   A kiss is only partially what you do with your lips. What you do with your hands is also important. When you're kissing her, keep your hands loosely around her waist or around her shoulders.
   
   Maybe, with one hand, touch the side of her face. Maybe move her hair out of the side of her face and away from your kiss. It feels really nice when you're kissing someone to gently touch the side of their face.
   
   Do it really lightly. It can tickle, and it can feel really intimate. If you're not comfortable doing that, just keep your hands lightly on her lower arm, or on the top of her arm, or around her waist, or around her shoulders.
   
   Thanks for listening. That was a few points on how to kiss your girlfriend. Have fun kissing.
   
   |In this video, Andy Jones teaches you how to kiss your girlfriend. He explains what to do about your lips, what to do with your body and what to do with your hands. From first timers to old pros, this video will have some advice for everyone.

How To Kiss a Girl for The First Time

Tips and Steps To Follow To Kiss a Girl For First Time

How To Kiss a Girl for The First Time

Don't let nerves ruin your first kiss. Follow this guide to the perfect kiss, and kiss for the first time the way you always imagined.

1. Step 1: Imagine

   Don't worry. We've all got an in-built ability to kiss -
   even primates do it. So it's a natural phenomenon,
   a bit like breathing, that is difficult to get wrong, and takes a surprisingly little amount of thought.
   
   Evolution and Mother Nature are on your side - a powerful combination, when all that's going against you are a few nerves, and maybe bad breath.
   Get yourself in the right frame of mind. Instead of dwelling on potential problems, imagine everything going really well. And when the big moment arrives your positive thinking will take over.

2. Step 2: Make it happen

   Shyness is a natural part of your first kiss, and this will only be made more embarrassing by having an audience. Do what you can to escape sniggering friends and find some privacy.
   If you're so shy you find it difficult to even be near the person you secretly like,
   think of various kissing related games, such as 'spin the bottle' - where you spin a bottle on the ground, and whoever it points at, you must kiss. Or play Sardines, which doesn't involve kissing, but gives you the chance to seek out the person you want to kiss and hide with them.
   If it's December, use Christmas to your advantage and grab some mistletoe.

3. Step 3: The signs

   Try not to worry about rejection, because by looking for certain signs, you can decipher the other person's feelings.
   If they're gazing into your eyes and smiling, there's a good chance they'll be receptive to a kiss.
   Teasing, making jokes, and giving you a lot of attention are also good signs.
   If you want someone to kiss you, give them a clue by flirting and getting close physically. Find an excuse to touch them. If they're still reticent, simply tell them you want to kiss them. Even if they're not interested, they'll be flattered, and it's very unlikely they'll run away screaming.

4. Step 4: If things go wrong

   So your confidence hasn't failed you, but what if your technique does? Well hopefully it won't if you've watched VideoJug's 'How to Kiss Someone Passionately'. But as it's your first time, things may not go exactly according to plan. So you might find you end up banging teeth, or getting a bit too sloppy
   If any of this happens, just laugh it off... and if the other person is cruel about it, they're probably not worth kissing anyway.

HEC Recognized Universities - List of Chartered Universities By HEC

HEC Recognized Universities
List of Chartered Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes of Pakistan both in Public & Private Sector recognized by (HEC) Higher Education Commission Pakistan
Updated on August, 2009

	ISLAMABAD Public Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes
	Air University, Islamabad   Allama Iqbal Open University, Islamabad   Bahria University, Islamabad   COMSATS Institute of Information Technology, Islamabad (having campuses; Islamabad, Abbottabad, Wah, Lahore and Attock).    Federal Urdu University of Arts, Sciences and Technology, Islamabad   Institute of Space Technology (IST), Islamabad   International Islamic University, Islamabad   National University of Modern Languages, Islamabad    Pakistan Institute of Engineering Applied Sciences, Islamabad   Pakistan Institute of Development Economics   Quaid-i-Azam University, Islamabad   National University of Science and Technology, Rawalpindi   Virtual university of Pakistan, Lahore   National Defence University, Islamabad Private Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes     Riphah International University, Islamabad   Foundation University, Islamabad   National University of Computer and Emerging Sciences, Islamabad

	PUNJAB Public Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes
	Bahauddin Zakariya University, Multan   Fatima Jinnah Women University, Rawalpindi   Government College University, Faisalabad   Government College University, Lahore   Islamia University, Bahawalpur   King Edward Medical University, Lahore   Kinnaird College for Women, Lahore   Lahore College for Women University, Lahore   National College of Arts, Lahore   National School of Public Policy, Lahore   National Textile University, Faisalabad (Federal Chartered), Faisalabad   University of Agriculture, Faisalabad   University of Arid Agriculture, Murree Road, Rawalpindi   University of Education, Lahore   University of Engineering & Technology, Lahore   University Of Engineering & Technology, Taxila, Rawalpindi   University of Gujrat, Gujrat   University of Health Sciences, Lahore   University of Sargodha, Sargodha   University of the Punjab, Lahore University of Veterinary and Animal Sciences, Lahore Private Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes     Beaconhouse National University, Lahore   Forman Christian College, Lahore   GIFT University, Gujranwala   Hajvery University, Lahore   Imperial College of Business Studies, Lahore   Institute of Management Sciences, Lahore   Lahore School of Economics, Lahore   Lahore University of Management Sciences, Lahore   Minhaj University, Lahore   National College of Buisness Administration& Economics (NCBA&E), Lahore   The Superior College, Lahore   University of Central Punjab, Lahore   University of Faisalabad, Faisalabad   University of Lahore, Lahore   University of Management & Technology, Lahore   University of South Asia, Lahore   University of Wah, Wah

	SINDH Public Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes
	Commecs Institute of Business & Emerging Sciences, Karachi   Dawood College of Engineering & Technology, Karachi   Dow University of Health Sciences, Karachi   Institute of Business Administration, Karachi   Liaquat University of Medical and Health Sciences, Jamshoro   Mehran University of Eng. & Technology, Jamshoro   NED University of Engineering & Technology, Karachi   Pakistan Naval Academy, Karachi   Quaid-e-Awam University of Engineering, Science & Technology, Nawabshah   Shah Abdul Latif University, Khairpur   Sindh Agriculture University, Tandojam   Sukkur Institute of Business Administration, Sukkur   University of Karachi, Karachi   University of Sindh, Jamshoro Private Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes     Aga Khan University, Karachi   Baqai Medical University, Karachi   Dadabhoy Institute of Higher Education, Karachi   DHA Suffa University, Karachi   Greenwich University, Karachi   Hamdard University, Karachi   Indus Institute of Higher Education, Karachi   Indus Valley School of Art and Architecture, Karachi   Institute of Business & Technology BIZTEK, Karachi   Institute of Business Management, Karachi   Iqra University, Karachi   Isra University, Hyderabad   Jinnah University for Women, Karachi   Karachi Institute of Economics & Technology, Karachi   KASB (Khadim Ali Shah Bukhari) Institute of Technology, Karachi   Mohammad Ali Jinnah University, Karachi   Nazeer Hussain University    Newports Institute of Communications and Economics, Karachi   Preston Institute of Management Sciences and Technology, Karachi   Preston University, Karachi   Shaheed Zulfikar Ali Bhutto Institute of Science & Technology (SZABIST), Karachi   Sir Syed University of Engg. & Technology, Karachi   Textile Institute of Pakistan, Karachi   University of East, Hyderabad   Ziauddin Medical University, Karachi

	BALOCHISTAN Public Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes
	Balochistan University of Engineering and Technology, Khuzdar   Balochistan University of Information Technology and Management Sciences, Quetta   Bolan University of Medical & Health Sciences, Quetta, Quetta   Lasbela University of Agriculture, Water & Marine Science, Lasbela   Sardar Bahadur Khan Women University, Quetta   University of Balochistan, Quetta Private Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes     Al-Hamd Islamic University, Quetta   Iqra University, Quetta

	NWFP Public Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes
	Frontier Women University, Peshawar   Gomal University, D.I.Khan   Hazara University, Dodhial, Mansahra   Institute of Management Sciences (IMSciences), Peshawar   Islamia College University, Peshawar, Peshawar   Khyber Medical University, Peshawar   Kohat University of Science & Technology, Kohat   NWFP Agriculture University, Peshawar   NWFP University of Engineering & Technology, Peshawar   Pakistan Military Academy, Malakand   University of Peshawar, Peshawar   University of Science & Technology Bannu, Bannu Private Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes     Abasyn University, Peshawar    CECOS University of Information Technology and Emerging Sciences, Peshawar   City University of Science & Information Technology, Peshawar   Gandhara University, Peshawar   Ghulam Ishaq Khan Institute of Engineering Sciences & Technology, Topi   Northern University, Nowshera   Preston University, Kohat   Qurtaba University of Science & Information Technology, D.I.Khan   Sarhad University of Science & Information Technology, Peshawar

	AZAD JAMMU & KASHMIR Public Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes
	Mirpur University of Science and Technology (MUST), AJ&K, AJK Private Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes     Mohi-ud-Din Islamic University, AJK   Al-Khair University, AJK

                                                                

	NORTHERN AREA Public Sector Universities/Degree Awarding Institutes
	Karakurum International University, Gilgit

CHILD LABOR IN PAKISTAN

Causes and Solutions Of Child Labour In Pakistan

God has given human beings the boon of wisdom and discretion to think upon the signs of the universe and to draw conclusions. That is the reason why they disclose the hidden facts of it and its structure and have made remarkable progress in many walks of life. Children are the flowers of heaven. They are the most beautiful and purest creation of God. They are innocent both inwardly and outwardly. No doubt, they are the beauty of this world. Early in the morning when the children put on different kinds of clothes and begin to go to schools for the sake of knowledge, we feel a specific kind of joy through their innocence.

But there are also other children, those who cannot go to schools due to financial problems, they only watch others go to schools and can merely wish to seek knowledge.It is due to many hindrances and difficulties; desperate conditions that they face in life. Having been forced to kill their aspirations, dreams and other wishes, they are pressed to earn a living for themselves and for their families. It is also a fact that there are many children who play a key role in sustaining the economically life of their family without which, their families would not be able to make ends meet. These are also part of our society who have forgotten the pleasures of their childhood. When a child in addition to getting education, earns his livelihood, this act of earning a livelihood is called as child Labour. The concept of child Labour got much attention during the 1990s when European countries announced a ban on the goods of the less-developed countries because of child Labour.

The International Labour Organization (ILO) defines child Labour as:

1- when a child is working during early age
2- he overworks or gives over time to Labour
3- he works due to the psychologically, socially, and materialistic pressure
4- he becomes ready to Labour on a very low pay

Another definition states:

“Child Labour” is generally speaking work for children that harms them or exploits them in some way (physically, mentally, morally or blocking access to education),
United Nations International Children’s Emergency Fund(UNICEF) defines “child” as anyone below the age of 18, and “child Labour” as some type of work performed by children below age 18. (UNICEF)

Child Labour is an important and a serious global issue through which all and sundry countries of the world are directly or indirectly affected, but, it is very common in Latin America, Africa and Asia. According to some, in several Asian countries’ 1/10 manpower consists of child Labour. In India the number of children between the ages of 10-14 has crossed above 44 million, in Pakistan this number is from 8 to 10 million, in Bangladesh 8-12 million, in Brazil 7 million, whereas their number is 12 million in Nigeria.

In Pakistan children aged 5-14 are above 40 million.During the last year, the Federal Bureau of Statistics released the results of its survey funded by ILO’s IPEC (International Program on the Elimination of Child Labour). The findings were that 3.8 million children age group of 5-14 years are working in Pakistan out of total 40 million children in this age group; fifty percent of these economically active children are in age group of 5 to 9 years. Even out of these 3.8 million economically active children, 2.7 million were claimed to be working in the agriculture sector. Two million and four hundred thousand (73%) of them were said to be boys.

During the year 2001 and 2002 the government of Pakistan carried out a series of consultation of tripartite partners and stakeholders (Labour Department, trade unions, employers and NGOs) in all the provinces. The objective was to identify the occupations and the categories of work, which may be considered as hazardous under the provisions of ILO Convention 182. As a result of these deliberations, a national consensus list of occupations and categories of work was identified, which is given below:

1. Nature of occupation-category of work
2. Work inside under ground mines over ground quarries, including blasting and assisting in blasting
3. Work with power driven cutting machinery like saws, shears, and guillotines, ( Thrashers, fodder cutting machines, also marbles)
4. Work with live electrical wires over 50V.
5. All operation related to leather tanning process e.g. soaking, dehairing, liming chrome tanning, deliming, pickling defleshing, and ink application.
6. Mixing or application or pesticides insecticide/fumigation.
7. Sandblasting and other work involving exposure to free silica.
8. Work with exposure to ALL toxic, explosive and carcinogenic chemicals e.g. asbestos, benzene, ammonia, chlorine, sulphur dioxide, hydrogen sulphide, sulphuric acid, hydrochloric acid, nitric acid, caustic soda, phosphorus, benzidene dyes, isocyanides, carbon tetrachloride, carbon disulphide, epoxy, resins, formaldehyde, metal fumes, heavy metals like nickel, mercury chromium, lead, arsenic, beryllium, fiber glass, and
9. Work with exposure to cement dust (cement industry)
10. Work with exposure to coal dust
11. Manufacture and sale of fireworks explosives
12. Work at the sites where Liquid Petroleum Gas (LPG) and Compressed Natural Gas (CNG) are filled in cylinders.
13. Work on glass and metal furnaces
14. Work in the clothe printing, dyeing and finishing sections
15. Work inside sewer pipelines, pits, storage tanks
16. Stone crushing
17. Lifting and carrying of heavy weight specially in transport industry ( 15b kg and above)
18. Work between 10 pm to 8 am ( Hotel Industry)
19. Carpet waving
20. Working 2 meter above the floor
21. All scavenging including hospital waste
22. tobacco process ( including Niswar) and Manufacturing
23. Deep fishing ( commercial fishing/ sea food and fish processing
24. Sheep casing and wool industry
25. Ship breaking
26. Surgical instrument manufacturing specially in vendors workshop
27. Bangles glass, furnaces

Now we can easily imagine in the light of above mentioned facts and figures how the nation’s future namely children are deprived of pleasures of life, ignorance has reduced their abilities of thinking right or differentiating between right and wrong, as well as their life-chances, to their non-access to education. It is true that child Labour is not an isolated phenomenon.

It is an outcome of a multitude of socio-economic factors and has its roots in poverty, lack of opportunities, high rate of population growth, unemployment, uneven distribution of wealth and resources, outdated social customs and norms and plethora of other factors. According to the United Nations Development Program (UNDP) the daily income of 65.5% people of Pakistan is below 2 U.S. dollars a day. According to the Asian Development Bank (ADB) Report, 47 million people in Pakistan are leading lines below the line of poverty, whereas the Social Policy Development Centre (SDPC) Karachi has stated in one of its reports that the ratio of poverty in Pakistan was 33% during 1999 that increased in 2001 and reached 38%. The ratio of poverty in the current year is around 30%.

Consider the point that if 30% of our country’s total population is leading life below the poverty-line wherein the people are deprived of basic necessities of life like clothing, shelter, food, education and medication, the children of these people will be forced to become Labourers or workers in order to survive. Another reason of child Labour in Pakistan is that our people don’t have the security of social life. There is no aid plan or allowance for children in our country. Class-based education system is another reason for increasing child Labour; villages lack standardized education systems and as a result, child Labour is on increase in rural areas. The government has not put its laws into practice to stop child Labour in our country. Employers after exploiting child Labour, extract a large surplus, whereas child Labour, despite increasing poverty, unemployment and other problems, are pressed to do anything and everything for their livelihood and the survival of their families.

Child Labour is a complex problem which demands a range of solutions. There is no better way to prevent child Labour than to make education compulsory. The West understood this a long time ago. Laws were enacted very early to secure continued education for working children; and now they have gone a step forward, and required completion of at least the preliminary education of the child before he or she starts work.

Martin Luther as back far 1524 sent a letter to German Municipalities insisting it was their duty to provide schools, and the duty of parents to educate their children. In Sweden, a royal decree in 1723 instructed parents and guardians to diligently see to it that their children applied themselves to book reading. In Europe, one country after another; Scotland, Prussia (1817), Austria (1869), France, United Kingdom (1880) and Italy made education compulsory. In 1872, Japan became the first non-Western country to make elementary school education compulsory with the declaration by the Meiji Govt.

The present government in Pakistan has made elementary education compulsory. Along with this, the government has distributed free books in primary schools so that parents, who cannot afford their children’s school expenses, send their children to schools. The major point is that this decision must be acted upon at all levels. There is strict need to stop child Labour in this country. Awareness must be raised and the attention of parents ought to be diverted to the education of their children. Child Labour Laws should be put into practice strictly. In addition, the educational system of the country-must be reshaped and restructured according to national development goals. The orphans and other deserving children must be helped financially on a prolonged basis. It is also essential to eliminate child Labour from the country, that the political, economical and social system of the country are need to be reshaped and such steps taken that make child Labour in this country a crime. They should bring on the well-being of a lay man, good governance and end to exploitative thinking. If we succeed to act upon these principles, our country can easily get rid of this problem i.e. child Labour. The agreement that has recently been approved by Pakistan, Norway and ILO to eradicate child Labour must be given importance and we hope that our rulers must put this agreement into practice using all means at their disposal.

How to Stay Positive when You Know Your Life Sucks

Steps , Warnings and Steps to Be Positive Thinker In Troubles Of Life

How to Stay Positive when You Know Your Life Sucks

Steps

1. Ground Yourself. The most common reason why people think their lives suck is that they aren't living their own lives. Look deeply into whether you are acting to please others - to please family, friends, and society. Realize that you need to get to know who you are and what your needs are, and make the choices to follow your own path. To know these things, a path of meditation and inner exploration is invaluable.
2. Look on the inside. What are some qualities you have that you like about yourself? Are you funny? Are you intelligent? Are you sincere? Are you generous? What do you have pride in? Try focusing on the positive things in your life. You may be having a positive influence on others even when you think you're useless.
3. Prove those negative thoughts wrong. When you find yourself in a bad mood, you could think of the negative things such as, "I'm dumb and annoying", "I'm better off dead", "I'm ugly, I wish I looked different", etc. Even though it's not true. Change your mind. Look for your good features, think about the ones that you know love you, look on your greater side. Realize that nobody's life is easy and that there will always be ups and downs, and moments of low self esteem. Don't automatically assume that nobody cares. Every person matters to someone. You're alive for a reason.
4. Appreciate what you see. Look in the mirror. Find some beautiful things about yourself.... Do you have nice skin? nice nails? beautiful eyes? full lips? Find stuff that appeals to you. When you can't change something, change your attitude towards it!
5. It's all how you look at it. Jealous of the people with 'amazing' lives? They chose to be that way! Remember, there are people living in mansions who are miserable and people living on the street who are perfectly happy. It's all on how you look at it.
6. Determine how your life could be better. What can you do to make your life better? What do you desire to do? How do you want to feel? Make a few reachable goals and your own strategies. The first step is usually the hardest - getting help or admitting you need it.
7. Sometimes it's just luck. A lot of things in life are just luck. Where you were born, whether you had a kind loving family or an abusive one where your mind or even your life is in danger, whether you belong in your community or were born into an out-group by religion, race, etc., whether your family was rich or poor are all random things. It's what you do with it that matters. Remember that there is something epic and heroic in rising from harsh circumstances to do something well. Just surviving a rough situation and coming out of it with a heart is a triumph, a story that could move people long after you lived. That matters.

• Sometimes situations that look good from the outside, like a wealthy but emotionally abusive family can inspire both misery and jealousy from others. Accept that's the situation. Remember that your life is your own and its direction is your choice. You don't have to be who other people tell you that you are, whether that's Future Criminals of America or Ruthless Cut-Throat Capitalist. You can change your life by choosing the direction that matters to you and pursuing it one small step at a time.

1. Get motivated. What motivates you? What gives you energy to go on everyday? Music? Love? Family? A 1km run? God/Allah? Your attitude? Your pet? Friends? School? Give yourself a boost by focusing on what is important to you personally.
2. Remember that some things can pass with time. There will be a tomorrow. There will be a next week. There will be a next month and perhaps by then, things will have changed for the better. If you are underage in a bad situation you have a definite release date after which your life is your own, all the things you could do to better it will come into reach even if they're difficult.
3. Reminisce. Whenever you feel like the future is 'hopeless', think about happy memories. It will help make you feel better and remind you that in the future, there will be good things, too. Think about all the good things you've experienced, felt, and achieved, and consider how many more good things could be waiting ahead. There will be many great moments in your life - don't let a few obstacles get in the way. If you don't have any happy memories, this is relative - don't judge them by things other people think of as "happy memories." Think of the moments it wasn't as bad, even if those were only in solitude.
4. Don't stop yourself from feeling the joy. It's okay to step back once in awhile and just enjoy the moment. Even in tough situations - it's important to smile and laugh here and there. Don't restrict yourself from doing things you love because they're "not important" or because you think you'll be criticized for doing them. Let yourself enjoy life even if you're not at the best place you could be. You only live once - make the best of it.
5. Develop a gratitude journal. It's pretty simple. At the end of every day, write down five things that have made you happy or appreciative that day -- not necessarily big things, even small ones count. For example: nice weather, being praised by my boss for getting an urgent errand done, my playful dog, kids and hubby kissing me goodbye before they went to school/work, a hilarious joke a mate shared, etc.
6. If you feel persistently sad, unmotivated, anxious, hopeless or fearful, seek professional help. You may be suffering from a mood disorder or nutritional deficit which could be contributing to your situation. Chronic physical pain can cause these symptoms too, if an aspirin lifts your mood then go to a pain clinic. Remember there is always somebody there who wants to help you. You are valuable!
   Preserve the memory of a loved one. Visitors can add photos & comments.

Tips

• To "go for it," simply get up and do it. There is a small voice inside saying "Get up!", and you need to do what it says; just dive in! Turn off the computer, turn off the TV, and get going!
• When you think positively, your whole views change about the world and you tend to look on the better, clearer side. It may sound stupid but being resentful is what really renders positive thinking useless. When you let down your walls (or hold out until they collapse...) really trying to "focus on the positives."
• Thinking positively means hanging on to hope and looking for new possibilities at the time when life's gotten too hard. It means striving against its challenges, however extreme. It means hanging on to what is good in yourself if everything else gets swept away and valuing your compassion, your warmth, your capacity to find beauty. There is always the sky, there is always a dewdrop on a weed.
• If the above fails for you, take the Buddhist view: Life is difficult. The fallacious thought is that we can change that. In accepting that life indeed is difficult, we begin to make it less painful...not less difficult. Accept that life is full of difficulty and choose the religion, belief system, or substance to ingest to decrease the pain; that is after all what the rest of us do. Life can suck, deal with it.

Warnings

• Don't make the mistake of standing still rather than giving it a try.
• Don't get lost in self-pity. Remember you have the ability to change your outlook and your situation. If you can't change your situation, you can always turn inward and decide how you'll respond to it. Sometimes innocent people are jailed for crimes they never committed. Sometimes people are crushed by discrimination and oppression, or robbed, or raped, or face job loss and fall through the cracks. You can't be who you were before tragedy, but you can become whole again as someone who survived tragedy and you can be remembered as someone who survived injustice without letting it poison you.
• Let yourself grieve real loss. Accept the five stages of grief and let them flow, cry, rage, journal, bargain with the divine, it's a process that takes as long as it does for anyone who grieves. Don't let someone tell you it's just self pity, accept that it's grief and feel your feelings. Losing a friend, a pet, a job, an opportunity or facing a hard truth is real grief. Losing your idea of who you were to a painful self recognition is grief too, all those possibilities are gone and you can't see the new possibilities until you've grieved them and let go of the old.
• Resist the urge to act out moods on those around you. Instead, write, confide in a friend, draw, take a walk, etc. Do something creative or physically active, something you feel comfortable doing and that others don't have the right to criticize.
• Consult someone if you start having suicidal thoughts. Don't keep it inside.
• If taking an aspirin or acetaminophen relieves suicidal thoughts and pushes you away from the brink, you are facing chronic physical pain instead of or in addition to depression even if you can't recognize it as such. Seek a pain clinic and an accurate diagnosis for the cause of your pain. You are much better off with a prescription if you need maintenance pain medication, a longterm prescription is likely to be safer and more effective. Migraines, fibromyalgia flares, many medical conditions can be easily mistaken for depression because depression is more common and well known. Specialists interpret symptoms within their own specialty. Sleep apnea and other types of sleep problems can also have this as a symptom. Become aware of your physical health issues and find the right doctors to get effective treatment for them. It can make a world of difference, especially if therapy and antidepressants have no effect but an over the counter pain medication reduces the problem.

How to become a Positive Thinker?

Tips to Become a Positive Thinker  to succeed In Life

How to become a Positive Thinker

The best and quickest way to improve your life is simple: just think more positively. You've probably heard this many times before. And you're probably thinking, "That's a great idea, but in the real world it's much easier said than done." That's true; like a lot of things in life, becoming a "positive" person is an idea that is simple but not necessarily easy. The goal of this brief article is to give you a few simple and practical techniques that will help you make positive thinking an automatic and permanent part of your life.
Your thought patterns have a huge influence over every aspect of your life. Your thoughts determine your personality, the quality of your relationships, your financial success, your physical health, and much more. You probably have an idea of the power of your thoughts. The fact that you're reading this indicates you know it's important. But if you're like most people, you still grossly underestimate the powerful physiological effects your thoughts can have. For example, by simply thinking of biting into a juicy, yellow lemon you can make your mouth water. That's just a small example of how a thought can create chemical changes in the body.
The fact is that your thoughts greatly influence much more important things than saliva production. Science has shown that positive thoughts increase your white blood cell count which helps you fight infection and disease. In a study recently published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, researchers at the University of Wisconsin proved that people who practice positive thinking are better equipped to fight disease. In the study, a team of neuroscientists used electroencephalography to measure brain activity and then gave all the subjects flu shots. What they found is that positive thinking individuals had a significantly stronger immune response than those who exhibited more negative thought patterns. The bottom line: positive thinking can make you not only happier but healthier as well.
If you currently have habitual negative thought patterns - and most everyone does - you can learn to eliminate them and replace them with positive thought habits. But it won't happen on its own. You have to make a conscious decision to make a change. Once you do that - and with the help of a few simple techniques - it's actually pretty easy to become totally positive. Here are a few simple techniques you can start using right now:

• Smile and Let the Tail Wag the Dog
  Being happy can make you smile. But does it also work the other way? Can smiling make you happy? Researchers at the University of California at San Francisco have discovered that mimicking the facial expressions associated with such emotions as happiness, sadness, and anger can trigger some of the same physical changes produced by actually feeling these emotions. By measuring an array of biometrics - such as heart rate, body temperature, and the electrical resistance of the skin - they demonstrated that simply smiling made the body "happy." Apparently moving facial muscles sends signals to the autonomic nervous system, which controls certain muscle and gland activity. This, in turn, spurs the physical reactions. So, smile and you'll be happy!
• Create a Triggering mechanism for Yourself
  Now try your own smiling experiment. Put a big smile on your face right now. You may have to force it at first but do it anyway and see what happens. It's okay if you feel silly. Let the silliness make you smile even more. As you smile, think of anytime in the past when you felt very happy, joyful and positive. We've all had experiences in our lives when we have felt very positive. Let yourself replay some of those positive moments right now. Let yourself relive feelings of being positive and confident. Continue to smile. Release all cares and concerns and with a big smile on your face, feel yourself becoming more and more positive and carefree.
  As your positive feelings continue to build, press the thumb and middle finger of either hand together gently but firmly, and say to yourself "I am positive!" Again, while you're feeling very positive, press your thumb and middle finger together and say "I am positive!"
  You have just programmed yourself with a mechanism that you can use to trigger these same positive thoughts and feeling anytime you choose. Practice this frequently and soon you'll notice that you can have a positive attitude in any situation merely by pressing your thumb and middle finger together and saying "I am positive!"
• Choose Your Words Carefully
  What you say and the words you choose are very important to maintaining a positive perspective and eliciting positive outcomes. For example, consider the word "don't". If you call out to a child "Don't slam the door!" what's the next sound we usually hear? Bam!! That's right, the door slamming. It's as if the child didn't hear the "don't." Only the positive part of the statement got through: "Slam the door!" However, if you say "Close the door softly," the child will be much more likely to comply. Another dangerous word is "can't." People often say I can't lose weight, or I can't quit smoking, or I can't remember names. The more they say that, the more it becomes reality. From now on, let the use of that word be like a red light flashing as a warning that this is negative programming that can create false limitations. Don't let this word rob you of your true potential.
• Eject Negative Self-Talk
  More important than the words you say to others are the words you say to yourself. We all have an inner voice that reflects our subconscious thinking. Unfortunately, a lot of our self-talk is negative. For example: "I'll never be able to do it", or "I'll never understand it", or "I'm not smart enough", or "If something can go wrong, it will". To eliminate negative self-talk you must first become aware of it. What are the things that you say to yourself that limit your potential? The moment you become aware of the negativity eject it! You can eject it just as easily as you can eject a tape from a tape deck.
  To make that ejection more vivid, you can press your index finger against your thumb, or against a table or a dashboard, as if you're pressing a button, and at the same time emphatically say "EJECT!" Then immediately replace the negative with a positive such as "I can!" Over time, repeating this simple physical action will go a long way to helping you become totally positive.
• Train Your Brain through Meditation
  Research has shown that meditation increases activity in the left prefrontal cortex; the same area of the brain that scientists associate with positive thinking. And people who meditate regularly are typically found to be more positive and healthier than the population in general. So learn how to meditate - and practice it often. You'll train your brain to use its positive thinking centers more readily and quickly become a more positive person.
• Remind Yourself of What's Important
  A friend of ours who is a salesman and who's away from his home and family more than he'd like to be, told us about a tape he put together that never fails to lift his spirits. The tape consists of a series of messages from the most important people in his life: his wife, his father, his kids, and his closest friend. On his tape, each of these people says, in his or her own words, how important this man is to them. They say what they like, admire, and respect about him. They say how much they appreciate him, love him, and miss him when he's away. He says that after a tough sales call, or anytime he needs a lift, he plays that tape and instantly he feels very fortunate, very happy, and has greater sense of self-worth. It puts everything back in its proper perspective, and gives him renewed strength and a very positive attitude. Perhaps you could benefit from creating a similar tape of your own.
• Wash Away Negativity with a Powerful Visualization
  Another technique for feeling totally positive is called the funnel of energy. It's a simple visualization exercise that can take less than a minute, but it makes you feel great. Here's how you do it. Imagine there's a funnel of positive energy flowing in through the top of your head. This positive energy comes from the purist, highest, most divine source of energy in the universe. It makes you feel more alive, stronger, more aware and alert. The moment it enters your body you sense its positive, loving, healing effect. You feel it cleansing you of negativity. Washing away any past negative programming you have experienced. It's dissolving all the old fears, the old inhibitions, the old limitations. Feel this positive, loving, healing energy washing away all negative thoughts, images and feelings. Feel it releasing your inner strength. The energy continues to flow in, through your shoulders, arms and hands, your chest, your back, abdomen, hips, legs and feet, reaching every part of your body dissolving all negativity. It's converting your entire body to healthful positive energy. Imagine all the negativity flowing out of your hands and feet leaving your body filled with only the purest positive energy. If feels so good to free yourself from negativity, it feels so good to be totally positive.
  Practice this visualization any time you'd like. Allow the visualization to last as long as you need to feel revived and purged of all negativity. It's great any time you need a lift.
• Welcome Life's Obstacles - Adversity is Opportunity
  Life throws each of us a lot of curves. No one goes through life without problems, or without running into obstacles. And some of these problems or obstacles can be huge. But what's really important is how we face these obstacles. If we think negatively, we can be overwhelmed, give up or become ineffective in dealing with them. But there is a much better way to handle them. We can choose to look for something positive in the situation. We can choose to consider it a blessing in disguise - even if we have no idea what that blessing might be. We can look for an advantage or opportunity in any situation. As Richard Bach points out in his book Illusions, "There is no such thing as a problem without a gift in its hands." And the Chinese word for crisis is written with two characters. One of them means opportunity.
  Many of our students have become so positive that when an unexpected problem arises they automatically say "Oh good!" They then immediately start looking for the opportunity presented by the situation. And they inevitably find it. This can work for you, too. Learning to deal successfully with obstacles can help you live a more fulfilling life. As Booker T. Washington said, "Success is to be measured not so much by the positions that we have reached in life, as by the obstacles which we have overcome while trying to succeed."
• Don't Worry - Be Happy
  In order to be totally positive, we need to know how to deal with worry. Every thought we have affects us physically as well as mentally, and worry can be very harmful. Dr. Charles Mayo said; "Worry affects circulation, the heart, the glands, the whole nervous system, and profoundly affects the health." Think about the process you go through when you worry. In your mind you picture a negative end result. It takes no effort or willpower; you just dwell on it. And in a short time this negative end result appears very real to you and you generate the same emotions that you'd experience if it really happened. You experience the same fear, anxiety, or discouragement. Consequently, you end up feeling bad right now for something that is merely a thought in your mind. At the same time you are setting up patterns in your mind for future negative experiences. The more you worry, the more you train your mind to expect bad things. Even if your "problem" never manifests itself, the worry takes its toll through immediate discomfort and the harmful effects of excessive stress.
  It's said that worry is interest paid in advance on a debt you may never owe. And Mark Twain put it this way; "I've had a lot of troubles in my day - most of which never happened." So, most worry is useless. You're better off ejecting it.
  But you can take the same process you use to worry, change just one thing, and it can help you immensely. Instead of imagining a negative end result, imagine a positive one! This, too, takes very little effort or willpower. Just dwell on that positive end result and in no time at all you'll be generating the emotions that are associated with that experience. You'll feel great immediately as a result of something that is merely a thought in your mind. You'll feel joy, happiness, and self-confidence. Plus, you'll be setting up patterns in your mind for future positive experiences. So make the worry process work for you rather than against you. Get into the habit of expecting good things.

There are many other things you can do to become more positive, but this handful of ideas is a great start. Begin today and you'll soon realize what a tremendous impact they'll have on your life.

Best City for Young Adults To Live

Great City for Young Adults

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Free from ties to kids or a mortgage, young adults can settle virtually anywhere they choose. So which place is best for you when the world is your oyster?

Here are 10 cities in the U.S. that offer exceptional opportunities for those starting out in life. We began our search using the criteria we used to select our overall list of Best Cities for the Next Decade: healthy economies fueling new job growth. We fine-tuned our search using other youth-friendly factors such as large percentages of people under 35, cost of living and rental costs, culture, nightlife, and the time you're likely to spend in traffic. Take a look — and tell us what you think.

Austin, Texas

Metro population: 1,705,075

Cost-of-living index: 97 (avg. is 100)

Median monthly rent/utilities: $864 (avg. is $819)

Avg. annual wage (as of 2007): $41,380

Unemployment rate: 6.9%

% of Gen Y residents: 30%

Top employers: Austin School District, Dell, city and federal government, IBM, Seton Healthcare Network, St. David’s Healthcare Partnership, University of Texas at Austin


Austin has the fourth-lowest jobless rate among cities with populations of one million or more. Living costs fall below the national norm. It doesn't hurt that this is the capital of Texas and home to eight colleges and universities, including the University of Texas. Austin's cultural scene is exceptional, with two giant music festivals each year, a vibrant nightlife, and eclectic, up-and-coming neighborhoods, There’s certainly more than enough here to keep a recent grad busy.

PROS: Below-average cost of city living, hundreds of bars and music venues for the twenty-something set, reasonable rent

CONS: Long, hot summers, accelerating urban sprawl, limited public transportation (though the average drive will last only 23 minutes

Best cities for new college graduates

Top Ten (10) Best cities for new college graduates all Over The World

Best cities for new college graduates

Cramming for final exams is over and you've got your degree. Now the real test begins. As graduates prepare to enter the workforce, they'll find the best job market in the last five years, according to career experts. The bad news: average starting salaries for new grads have dropped below $30,000 during the same time frame.

We began our search using the same criteria we applied to select our list of Best Cities for the Next Decade: healthy economies fueling new job growth. We then refined our search by looking at factors of interest to the post-grad set, such as rent affordability, access to public transportation, overall cost of living, culture, nightlife and the percentage of people ages 20 to 24.
Here are 10 U.S. cities that may offer exceptional opportunities for recent grads in a rebounding economy:
No. 10 - Washington, D.C.
Median monthly rent: $1,226 (nat. average, $817)
Median income (2009): $40,952 (nat. average, $30,402)
Income growth (2005 to 2009): 4.9%
Unemployment rate: 9.5% (nat. average, 9.2%)
Percentage of residents ages 20-24: 6.5% (nat. average, 7.0%)

No. 10 for grads - Washington, D.C.

The District is a clear choice for new grads looking to start their careers in public service. The nation’s capital led U.S. job growth in 2010, hiring thousands for stable, well-paying jobs in government and government-related sectors, such as like public health, homeland security and legal services.
By 2012, Uncle Sam will make another 25,000 hires in the region -- paying more, on average, than the private sector. As in other large cities, well-paying jobs come with higher rents and living costs. But recent grads can look to eclectic neighborhoods like Adams-Morgan and Columbia Heights for cheaper rent. An abundance of free museums, concerts and other entertainment also lessens the cost-of-living sting.
Pros: An economy insulated from economic volatility because of so many government and government-related jobs, extensive public transportation system, plenty of excitement, history, and nightlife.
Cons: It's pricey. And commutes can be long.

No. 9 - Charlotte, N.C.
Median monthly rent: $774 (nat. average, $817)
Median income (2009): $28,386 (nat. average, $30,402)
Income growth (2005 to 2009): 4.39%
Unemployment rate: 10.4% (nat. average, 9.2%)
Percentage of residents ages 20-24: 6.1% (nat. average, 7.0%)

No. 9 for grads - Charlotte, N.C.

With a metro population of 1,745,524, Charlotte is the second-largest banking center in the country, and it has the jobs to prove it: Wells Fargo (WFC) and Bank of America (BAC) rank among the city's top employers. Charlotte's diversified economy has also seen gains in fields such as aviation, defense, bioscience and energy production, and the city added 4,900 private-sector jobs last year alone. US Airways Group (LCC) has its headquarters here. Low rents and living costs combined with a glitzy, developing uptown district make it worth a look.
Pros: A cost-of-living bargain compared to other major cities, rebounding economy.
Cons: High, but falling, crime rates, limited public transportation.

No. 8 - Seattle, WA
Median monthly rent: $942 (nat. average, $817)
Median income (2009): $33,372 (nat. average, $30,402)
Income growth (2005 to 2009): 5.0%
Unemployment rate: 9.2% (nat. average, 9.2%)
Percentage of residents ages 20-24: 6.7% (nat. average, 7.0%)

No. 8 for grads - Seattle, WA

Seattle is a global hub not just for freight, but also for information technology, clean technology and life sciences. Forty-one percent of Seattle's businesses -- most of them mid-sized -- say they plan to add jobs this year, and Amazon recently posted want ads for 1,900 new jobs in its South Lake Union office. A studio in the hip Capitol Hill neighborhood runs well under $1,000. Take your savings to a theater, club or cafe -- the Emerald City is renowned for its music, theater and coffee culture.
Pros: Stable job scene, relatively low crime rate
Cons: Limited public transit, sluggish post-recession recovery. And hope you like cloudy days.

No. 7 - San Francisco, CA
Median monthly rent: $1,259 (nat. average, $817)
Median income (2009): $38,448 (nat. average, $30,402)
Income growth (2005 to 2009): 3.9%
Unemployment rate: 10.0% (nat. average, 9.2%)
Percentage of residents ages 20-24: 5.9% (nat. average, 7.0%)

No. 7 for grads - San Francisco, CA

Arguably the tech capital of the world, San Francisco is home to 4,133 information technology firms, 50 digital media companies (including Lucasfilm and Yelp, Inc.) and 30 clean tech firms, according to the San Francisco Center for Economic Development. The city expects to add about 16,000 jobs in the next five years. Again, we know it's an expensive place to live. But the job opportunities are exceptional and could be well worth the cost. Plus, San Francisco offers an exceptional cultural atmosphere and a diverse community in a pleasant, if foggy, climate.
Pros: High starting salaries for skilled workers, relatively low crime rate, an extensive public transit system.
Cons: It comes with a high pricetag in rents and living costs.

No. 6 - Philadelphia, PA
Median monthly rent: $895 (nat. average, $817)
Median income (2009): $30,974 (nat. average, $30,402)
Income growth (2005 to 2009): 4.6%
Unemployment rate: 8.5% (nat. average, 9.2%)
Percentage of residents ages 20-24: 6.5% (nat. average, 7.0%)

No. 6 for grads - Philadelphia, Pa.

The number of college-educated young adults in Philadelphia has jumped 57% from 2000 -- evidence of the city's diverse entry-level job opportunities and relatively low cost. In the past year, Philly added 22,500 jobs in fields such as health and education. The country's fifth largest city also boasts one of the most competitive bioscience and medical technology hubs, which includes companies such as MedImmune and Bio-Rad Laboratories (BIO). Recent grads can live in Old City, Northern Liberties or Fairmount, where a two-bedroom runs a little over $1,000 and galleries, bars and boutiques abound.
Pros: Relatively low rent and cost of living when compared with other major cities, such as New York and Washington, D.C., extensive public transportation system, high job growth in healthcare, science and technology
Cons: Persistent high crime, rents still slightly higher than national average

No. 5 - Omaha, NE
Median monthly rent: $711 (nat. average, $817)
Median income (2009): $27,075 (nat. average, $30,402)
Income growth (2005 to 2009): 3.5%
Unemployment rate: 5.1% (nat. average, 9.2%)
Percentage of residents ages 20-24: 6.9% (nat. average, 7.0%)

No. 5 for grads - Omaha, NE

Omaha's metro area population comes in at 829,702. Five Fortune 500 Companies -- Berkshire Hathaway (BRK-A), Union Pacific (UNP), Mutual of Omaha, ConAgra Foods (CAG) and Peter Kiewit Sons -- call Omaha home, and the city offers thousands of high-paying, high-skilled jobs in finance, defense and information technology. Starting salaries go further in the Midwest: Omaha's rock-bottom rents put a two-bedroom apartment within easy reach of most recent grads, and the cost-of-living falls way below that of the other cities on our list. Omaha also offers a surprising mix of culture and nightlife, especially in the trendy Old Market arts district and the dozens of jazz, rock and indie-rock clubs downtown.
Pros: Low unemployment rate, low crime rate, short commutes
Cons: Limited public transit system, low median income overall

No. 4 - New York, NY
Median monthly rent: $1,072 (nat. average, $817)
Median income (2009): $34,039 (nat. average, $30,402)
Income growth (2005 to 2009): 4.6%
Unemployment rate: 8.4% (nat. average, 9.2%)
Percentage of residents ages 20-24: 6.2% (nat. average, 7.0%)

No. 4 for grads - New York, NY

Let's start at the top. No U.S. city can match the Big Apple in terms of job opportunities or cultural fare. Yes, it can be ridiculously expensive, especially for those on a starting salary. But with a little digging, you can find cheaper rents in outer-borough neighborhoods--Bay Ridge in Brooklyn, Sunnyside and Jackson Heights in Queens--or across the Hudson River in Hoboken, New Jersey. An extensive public transit system makes getting around a snap. And it's the city that never sleeps. No wonder droves of recent grads seek their fortunes here each year.
Pros: Unmatched career opportunities, culture and nightlife, falling crime rates
Cons: Sky-high rents and cost of living in most areas

No. 3 - Colorado Springs, CO
Median monthly rent: $802 (nat. average, $817)
Median income (2009): $26,977 (nat. average, $30,402)
Income growth (2005 to 2009): 3.4%
Unemployment rate: 10.1% (nat. average, 9.2%)
Percentage of residents ages 20-24: 7.9% (nat. average, 7.0%)

No. 3 for grads - Colorado Springs, CO

Located 60 miles south of Denver, Colorado Springs has the lowest metro population on our list at 608,000. But the city offers an unbeatable combo for recent grads: A vibrant, tech-based economy plus rock-bottom living costs. In 2010,the city made plans to add 1,398 new jobs in fields like information technology, banking and higher education, with average salaries around $36,900. Major companies like Hewlett-Packard (HPQ), Verizon Communications (VZ) and FedEx (FDX) have corporate offices here.
Rents remain low -- even downtown, with plenty to do in a walkable, nine-block radius. And with the Rocky Mountains looming over the city, it's an outdoor enthusiast's delight, ranking among the country's fittest cities, according to a recent Gallup survey. It's home to Colorado College, the Air Force Academy, and many evangelical Christian organizations.
Pros: Educated community, low crime rate, 118 miles of urban bike trails, high percentage of residents ages 20-24 compared with other cities on our list.
Cons: High unemployment rate for low-skilled workers (opportunities skew toward the highly-skilled), limited public transit, low median income.

No. 2 - Boston, MA
Median monthly rent: $1,112 (nat. average, $817)
Median income (2009): $36,174 (nat. average, $30,402)
Income growth (2005 to 2009): 4.3%
Unemployment rate: 7.1% (nat. average, 9.2%)
Percentage of residents ages 20-24: 6.7% (nat. average, 7.0%)

No. 2 for grads - Boston, MA

Sixty colleges and universities, 15 hospitals and 18 Fortune 500 companies call the Boston area home -- including Liberty Mutual, Boston Scientific (BSX) and State Street Corp. (STT). That makes Beantown a promising choice for recent grads seeking careers in science, medicine, finance and academia. It's expensive. Rents skew high here, but so does the income -- and unemployment is impressively low. There's also Fenway Park, the Faneuil Hall marketplace, Cambridge, cheap lobster, and the best pizza outside of New York.
Pros: Educated workforce, diverse nightlife and entertainment, extensive public transit system and renowned walkability, relatively low (and falling) crime rates
Cons: Overall cost of living is high, average commutes are long

No. 1 - Baltimore, MD
Median monthly rent: $972 (nat. average, $817)
Median income (2009): $32,994 (nat. average, $30,402)
Income growth (2005 to 2009): 5.6%
Unemployment rate: 7.4% (nat. average, 9.2%)
Percentage of residents ages 20-24: 6.8% (nat. average, 7.0%)

No. 1 for grads - Baltimore, MD

Baltimore's diversified economy includes high-paying jobs in defense, finance and information technology. It's home to Constellation Energy Group (CEG), a Fortune 500 company. Lockheed Martin Corporation (LMT) and Grant Thornton International also have offices here.
Charm City weathered the recession with low foreclosure rates, and income growth remains strong. Downtown Baltimore is in the midst of several multimillion-dollar development projects. It ranks higher than Austin, Denver and Atlanta in per capita income for downtown residents. And as many music fans know, few cities can match Baltimore for its innovative, eclectic art and music scene.
Pros: Relatively low costs of living and rent compared to other major cities, strong income growth, waterfront and downtown districts, extensive bus and subway system, easy train commute to Washington, D.C., violent crime dropped 4% between 2009 and 2010.
Cons: Long average commutes from the suburbs. Despite a drop in crime rate, some of Baltimore's inner-city neighborhoods still struggle with serious crime.